Alternative Therapies- The Control and Coping Behind Disordered Eating

Alternative Therapies- The Control and Coping Behind Disordered Eating

Despite common belief, disordered eating is not just about food. Food is used as a coping mechanism for the difficult emotions felt by someone with disordered eating, and the behaviors portrayed do no justice for the complex ways of thinking responsible for them.

For the purpose of this blog, I will be using descriptive terms and symptoms (e.g., disordered eating, food restriction, binging) rather than labels or diagnosis (e.g., eating disorders, anorexia, bulimia) to help combat the myth that one has to be medically diagnosed with an illness to experience symptoms or seek treatment. Disordered eating should be considered a spectrum, especially when many people who do not fit the official criteria for anorexia, bulimia and binge eating disorder still experience the same emotional, psychological and physical consequences as those with an official diagnosis. Anyone who experiences disordered eating or thoughts surrounding the issue are completely valid in their struggles, have the right to access help and strive for recovery.

One of the first contributors to disordered eating is stress. External stressors can make a person feel ‘out of control’ in their school, family or social life which can trigger a desperate need to regain control in other areas of life. Food can be seen and used as a control mechanism to counteract the stress caused by having no control over the rest of one’s life.

The same can be said for internal stressors; If a person is experiencing extreme emotional pain or feelings that are difficult to face, controlling food and eating behavior may offer a way of coping through consistency, routine, and stability. Many forms of disordered eating can also ease anxiety in the short term, providing immediate relief from emotional distress but with potentially harmful and addictive consequences.

A person may also use disordered eating behaviors as a form of self-harm or punishment. To clarify, the addictive behaviors of an eating disorder can perform similarly to self-harm through the release of specific chemicals that generate addictive feelings e.g., pain, relief, calm, and hyper arousal. This means a person who this addicted to specific disordered eating behaviors (e.g., purging) will find it difficult to stop.

Disordered eating may also be used as a form of self-punishment e.g., feeling that one is not good enough to eat, or that one must endure the pain of overeating or purging. This is linked with self esteem and the way the person experiencing these behaviors may feel about themselves or others.

Disordered eating can also be used to communicate how one feels internally by presenting symptoms externally. One may try to capture the attention and concern of friends and family by restricting food intake or by trying to lose weight. In contrast, a person who has experienced unwanted attention may try to gain weight in order to avoid sexualization's or high expectations from others.

It is important to understand that recovery from disordered eating is not about symptom management, these behaviors occur due to deep rooted thoughts, feelings and emotions that need to be resolved. Helping a person overcome binge eating behaviors may result in food restriction in the same way that helping a person overcome restrictive eating could evolve into secretive purging. A person who controls their eating behavior or uses food as a control or coping mechanism needs to learn how to deal with the internal issues they are experiencing. This also explains why disordered eating recovery can take a long time and why those in a symptom-free recovery claim that disordered behavior thoughts never really go away.

Restrictive Eating Behaviors

Focusing now on restrictive eating behavior most commonly associated with reduced food intake, weight loss and a preoccupation with food consumption. Restrictive eating behaviors are not solely characterized by the fear of weight gain or the desire for weight loss. The restriction of food can also be an attempt to gain control over aspects of the self, such as what enters and leaves the body, how the body functions (some people may try and stop their menstrual cycle) or how one appears. This behavior may also be used as a way to communicate distress but ironically can also increase distress and anxiety, making non-restrictive eating behavior impossible to fathom, let alone execute.

The build-up of anxiety in restrictive eating behavior can also be expressed through ‘safe’and ‘fear’ foods. This concept consists of the idea that some foods are safer to eat than others as they do not trigger as much anxiety; safe foods are most typically associated with low calorie or plain foods but can also include foods that are not perceived as threatening or harmful to the consumer (foods with smooth textures to prevent choking or packaged/fresh food to avoid risk of poisoning). Safe and fear foods can also be used to dictate what is and is not bought into the house in order to establish control over one’s environment and those around them.

Binge Eating Behaviors

Binge eating behavior is also linked with control and coping but can be a biological reaction to restriction too. After denying the body appropriate sustenance for an extended period of time, the brain may try to compensate by triggering an uncontrollable binge. The person who experiences this behavior may then start restricting their food again because of the binge, and a vicious cycle occurs. Binging in this respect can make a person feel out of control and so they may try to hide this behavior, attaching great shame and secrecy to it.

Binge eating may also act as a form of self-harm as mentioned before but also may be used to self sooth. This stems from the concept of ‘comfort eating’ where a person deals with their negative emotions though binge eating behavior.


The term ‘purge’ is used to describe the evacuation of food from the body and can cover various behaviors including excessive exercise, laxative abuse and self-induced vomiting. This cluster of behaviors can be present alongside any other type of disordered eating behavior including restriction and binging.

Much like in binge eating behavior, purging can be extremely secretive and have a lot of shame attached to it, a person could go years engaging in this behavior without telling anyone or being found out. Purging can happen as a result of an unwanted binge, triggering a restrict-binge-purge cycle or after having to engage in ‘performance eating’ (where a person attempts to eat normally in front of others so that their disordered eating goes undetected).

Purging can also be used as a form of self-harm and as mentioned earlier or become an addictive behavior entirely separated from food all together.

Veganism and Vegetarianism

Although vegetarianism and veganism can be held deeply in one’s core beliefs and morals, it can also be used as a form of food restriction and control by people experiencing disordered eating behaviors. It is important to gain an understanding about why this type of behavior is occurring and if it is connected to any of the themes covered in this blog. A person may become a vegetarian in order to compensate for an increase in food intake, attain feelings of importance or to control what is and is not bought into the household. Anxieties around food can be curbed when a person knows that the grocery shop will only contain vegan items.

There are other ways of upholding the morals and beliefs connected to veganism and vegetarianism that do not involve food and can be utilized by people with disordered eating behavior. Recycling, signing petitions, buying sustainable instead of disposable products and swapping high-street bought household items to homemade or refillable items can allow a person to make conscious ethical decisions without having to compromise their mental health.

In reflection, this blog has demonstrated the many thought processes behind disordered eating behaviors so that family, friends and colleagues can gain a better understanding as to why these behaviors occur. One cannot simply ‘just eat’ or ‘snap out of it’ because disordered eating is a result of a much deeper-rooted issue that needs to be resolved in order for a person to fully recover from such behaviors. Be kind and listen to what a person with disordered eating has to say and be patient with their journey.

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